If you and your spouse get divorced, your role with your children may change. It's important to embrace this and to think about how you can be the best possible parent that you can be in this new situation.
That's what one man learned when he got divorced. He fought very hard to get sole custody of his children, but he did not win the case. He had to become what he called a "part-time dad." He could no longer be the type of parent he wanted to be, and that decision was out of his hands.
Rather than lamenting it, though, he learned how to embrace this new role. He found out how to be an effective parent and how to make his time with his kids, even when it was limited, really count. As a result, years later, he still had a terrific relationship with his adult children.
If there was one problem with the process, he said it was that he could not look outside of the box of what he wanted. He couldn't see himself as anything but the type of parent he hoped to be. He had to learn what to do along the way, and that made it more difficult for him, in many ways, than it would have been if he had embraced that new role from the very beginning.
During your divorce, if your relationship with your kids is going to change in some fundamental way, make sure you are well aware of the legal options that you have, the obligations both you and your ex now hold, and your parental rights even after a marriage ends.