Avoid getting defensive when having your divorce discussion

On Behalf of | Jan 18, 2019 | Divorce

After years of caustic arguments and having your spouse’s anger and resentment directed at you, the decision has been made. You’re going to end the marriage and go your separate ways. The problem is, you haven’t told your spouse this information, and you’re not sure how to break the news. Regardless of how you introduce this topic, there’s an important piece of advice you’ll want to follow during the “divorce talk”: Don’t fall into the trap of trying to defend your decision.

Sure, you’ve thought about divorce for a long time and considered the multitude of reasons why you’ve made the decision, but the truth is, it’s not always easy to say the precise reason why you’ve chosen to call it quits. So, if your spouse questions your reasoning, you might find it hard to express yourself.

At the end of the day, you have the power to make decisions for yourself and whether or not you want to be married anymore. You are your own person and the simple fact that the decision has been made is enough reason for the courts; therefore, it should be enough reason for you and your soon-to-be ex.

All that being said, make sure that you are polite and patient with your spouse during your divorce discussion, as this will help make the legal process easier. Engaging in a knock-down, blow-out argument is not going to be good for anyone. If you’d like to learn other strategies that will help you end your marriage peacefully, our law firm is available to help you explore your next steps.

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